Billionaire and the largest father of Russia Roman Avdeev: How to raise 23 children

2024 Author: Richard Flannagan | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-15 23:55

In the family of Roman Avdeev, 23 children are growing, who are now from 7 to 17 years old, there are six of their own children, 17 are adopted. However, Roman Avdeev never separates his children. He accepts them, first of all, into his heart, and only then into his family. He has the financial ability to provide good conditions for children, but his attitude directly to upbringing deserves sincere respect.

How it all began

Roman Avdeev was born in Odintsovo, for a long time he lived with his family in a communal apartment. There were four of them in one room: grandmother, dad and mom, and Roman. In addition, relatives constantly came to them, friends came and at the same time everything was somehow fun, kind. Although the parents, for sure, had a very difficult time. But they knew how to create such an atmosphere in the house so that everyone was comfortable, albeit in one small room.

Later, the family received another room, but the relationship has always remained warm. Parents always tried to understand their son, even when he slammed the door in adolescence, and once left home altogether, accusing his father and mother that they did not love him. Probably, it was then, in childhood, that his own understanding of what a family should be like was born.

Roman Avdeev even today has great respect for the opinion of Galina Borisovna and Ivan Isaakovich, who now live in a neighboring village and often come to his house on foot and without warning.

After school, Roman Ivanovich entered the Moscow Power Engineering Institute, served in the army, and then went into business, he had his own cooperative for the production of decoders. Later acquired by the Moscow Credit Bank.

Then he had two sons who were born in his first marriage. And in 2002, with his second wife, he adopted twins Katya and Timur. Unfortunately, even then the businessman's wife knew that she had cancer, but hoped to defeat it. And even at that difficult time, she fully supported her husband's desire to accept children into the family.

Adopt a child

Roman Avdeev's desire to take up adoption was far from spontaneous. For a long time, he was involved in helping orphanages and came to the conclusion that it was simply pointless.

The current wife of Roman Avdeev, Elena, does not just support her husband. She married him when the banker already had 12 children and he knew for sure: this was far from the limit.

He was often asked questions about why he should take on such a burden. Business requires attention, time and effort. The upbringing of children, too, should not be allowed to take its course. But Roman Avdeev knew exactly what and why he was doing. And he just can't do it any other way. Raising children is the most important thing in his life.

He never chooses a child, only tries to take a baby who will live in a family from an early age. Sometimes he laughs: children from time to time sadly talk about their difficult childhood, and they got into the Avdeev family at that age when they certainly did not consciously perceive the surrounding reality, that is, they were still babies.

Simple happiness

There are as many as three houses on Roman Avdeev's plot. This is not a luxury, but a necessity, because every child should have his own personal space, his own room. The most amazing thing is that the whole family lives in a very special regime. There are no general ups and downs. The head of the family usually wakes up and leaves for work before everyone else, trying not to wake up the household.

Children wake up all in their own way. Pupils study in three different schools, the most common ones, where they are able to give a normal education. The kindergartens that the children attended were also the most common, municipal ones. This was the principled position of Roman and his wife: no elite private institutions.

Roman Avdeev admits: he adopted the youngest three children seven years ago. So far I stopped at this. He knows that he could have adopted many more babies, but then he himself would hardly have had the strength to take part in everyone's life. Roman Avdeev believes that it is absolutely impossible to buy off children with money, gifts, fashionable gadgets and trips to the Maldives. It is important for a child to feel the love of parents, their attention and care. And in this sense, a small and a large family are exactly the same.

Even at the time when Roman Ivanovich was helping orphanages, he noticed: growing up, girls and boys are not at all adapted to life. They have no idea what personal property is, they don't know how to cook and wash.

Therefore, everything is different in his house. Yes, there is a cook, but on his weekend the girls are happy to cook porridge and pasta, dumplings and sausages, they even make sweets, which dad simply cannot refuse.

The family, in addition to the cook, has seven people who help to take the children to school, tell you how to write an essay or solve an equation. However, Roman Ivanovich tries to do mathematics with children himself. All children are required to learn English from an early age. Growing up, children get the opportunity to study abroad, but only during the holidays.

Roman Avdeev, despite all his busyness, always finds time for children. He does not try to put pressure on children, but he makes it clear that he makes the main decisions in the family only because he is older and more experienced. And also on the rights of what financially provides for everyone. The message is this: become independent and make decisions.

He tries to raise children by his own example and never forgets that children need his love. Material things, of course, are very important, but much more important are cozy family evenings, a wooden stool made together with the sons, a joint trip to the dacha, gatherings around the fire, sports.

Roman Ivanovich Avdeev does not hide the fact that he will not leave a fortune to children. He will help everyone to get an education, get a job, buy housing and independently choose their own path. One thing is absolutely clear: Avdeev's children will certainly not become burners of life.

Today it is generally accepted that huge families with 10 or more children are a relic of the past. But even in our time there are people who see their happiness in numerous descendants. By the way, there are not so few of them in our country. Of course, a family with three children is now considered a large family, by old standards this is not much, but for most modern parents it is already a feat. In St. Petersburg, for example, according to statistics, there is only one percent of such brave men, but in Ingushetia - more than half.