Vladimir Vinokur and Tamara Pervakova: a fictitious marriage for the rest of their lives

2024 Author: Richard Flannagan | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-15 23:55

Back in 1974, she invited him to enter into a fictitious marriage. He needed a Moscow residence permit, and she needed the preservation of the apartment. The fictitious marriage of Vladimir Vinokur and Tamara Pervakova has been going on for more than forty years.

Ballerina and soldier

They met at the Operetta Theater, where twenty-year-old Tamara was a ballerina, and he was an intern, a student of GITIS. He was already 26 years old, he walked around the theater in an overcoat, everyone called him the Soldier. Seeing a thin, incredibly beautiful girl behind the scenes, Vinokur immediately began to attack her with an offer to marry him. But Tamara did not give up. She thought the attention of a grown man was too intrusive. She addressed him exclusively to you.

True, Vladimir courted her in a very strange way. No flowers, gifts or attention, except for a toy cat from the Soyuzpechat kiosk presented on March 8th. He took a taxi home, but he dropped it on the road at the nearest metro station. And he insisted that he would become famous, and she would be able to share his glory with him. The girl remained unapproachable. Only once did he manage to lure her to his dorm and tried to kiss her. To which young Tamara burst into tears. He did not make more attempts to hit her.

Housing problem

Seven months later, Vladimir disappeared, and Tamara suddenly realized that she really missed the unusual gray-eyed young man. And she invited him to her place. For his birthday. But he did not come until the next day and was unpleasantly surprised by the lack of homemade food. Cheese, sausage and cognac were on the table.

He even stayed with her for the night, but Tamara made a bed for him in the next room. She was not going to give up her positions so quickly. When the girl found out that Vinokur was threatened with distribution to the province, she herself invited him to fictitiously sign. But this option did not suit the novice actor, he wanted a real, not a fictitious family. The actor's dad, having met his future daughter-in-law, approved the choice of his son.

They signed on June 8, 1974. Nobody thought that the marriage was supposed to be fictitious. The wedding was widely celebrated with many relatives and guests.

I still don't know what love is

Tamara did not change her surname, she remained Pervakova. Numerous relatives of her husband reproached her for this decision, only the father-in-law looked at the marriage of his son with inherent practicality: the girl is good, hardworking, and even with an apartment, such a chance should not be missed by her son.

The honeymoon was spent in troubles and worries: her husband's state exams, his move, repairs in their apartment, the acquisition of furniture and all kinds of household issues that they courageously solved. When she is asked when she realized that she loves her husband, she cheerfully replies, that still does not know what love is. Emotions have long since grown into deep affection. It is important for her that in any situations her husband returns to her.

Sissy

They had a very unusual family relationship. For Vinokur, the main woman in life has always been his mother, whom he loves very much and still cares about her dearly. Mom for him is the ideal of a woman. He goes to her breakfast every day and gives bouquets at all his concerts, where he invariably sits her in the first row.

And Tamara flatly refused to devote all of herself to the family. Even when her husband became a famous and wealthy person, she refused to quit her job. She also did not learn to cook, confining herself to porridge and soups. After all, she was not a cook, but a ballerina. Nevertheless, after long grinding to each other, difficulties and demands put forward, they learned to enjoy family life.

Vinokur dreamed of a child, but his daughter Anastasia was born only after twelve years of marriage. And Tamara began to give all of herself to her daughter. Anastasia, having become an adult, speaks with gratitude and warmth about her mother, about her role in her life. The star dad was almost always on tour, and her mother took Nastya to school and to the ballet class, took her to work with her to the theater, instilled good taste in the baby and was happy about her success.

At 38, Tamara retired as a ballerina and has devoted herself to her family ever since. She helped her daughter in her creative development, was the main assistant and critic of her husband and daughter, who is today a ballerina of the Bolshoi Theater.

Dad, however, limited his participation in the life of the heiress to an incredible number of gifts. During a tour, he travels half of an unfamiliar country in search of a coveted toy for his daughter. He became interested with Nastya when she was fifteen.

Worldly wisdom

In more than forty years, they could have divorced many times. Tamara lacked the attention of her star husband, it upset her. But she fully accepted the position of her husband. And his principle was simple, he is an artist with a capital letter, those around him should simply accept his lifestyle. Or not to accept.

Tamara fought for her right to be an individual in her husband's large Jewish family. She did not make scandals, refusing to eat cutlets for breakfast or watch the Vremya program, surrounded by all her husband's relatives. She quietly and calmly acted as she saw fit. Vinokur's wife is an amazing woman. Despite all the difficulties in the relationship, endless loneliness due to the touring life of her husband, she learned to be happy and enjoy what she has. The actor says with pride and touching tenderness that their marriage is still alive only thanks to the wisdom of his Tamara.

She knows how to ignore rumors, gossip and scandals that arise around the name of the famous spouse. Perhaps it is not easy for her. But at the same time, she knows how to maintain external calmness and internal peace in the family. After all, divorce is easy, and building a stable, strong family is not at all easy.

Today she and her husband definitely find time in his busy touring schedule for a joint family vacation, cozy home holidays. And they rejoice at the successes of their little grandson Fedor. During the tour, Vinokur always carries with him a video with his wife, which he watches with pleasure. Perhaps this is what real feelings are. When two people stay together no matter what.

He has been together, in spite of everything, for 40 years. The marriage of the Great Maestro can also boast of an enviable longevity Raymond Pauls.